“You expect too much from your friends and it’s unrealistic” the words flashed across my cell phone screen, my heart quickly sinking.

This single sentence would make me question my every move and every motive going forward. Will this put too much pressure on her?  Or, Does this set up an unrealistic exception for her? My brain was full of questions when interacting with every one of my friends, not just the one who expressed her discontent with my expectations. When the person you have been the closest to for the longest length of time rejects you and tells you that you expect too much from people, you listen.

Was I really expecting too much from her? 

I went through the full circle of emotions with this single sentence. Fear that it was true; guilt that I could have done that to anyone; shame that I could possibly make someone feel that way; doubt that it was true; denial that there was any validity to those words. It took me YEARS to process these words. After questioning my every interaction with my friends, I became a super friend. I became the doer, the checker, the planner, the helper, the fixer. I was the glue of every friendship I had, and I was determined not to put expectations on anyone. I was determined to be the very best friend that I could be. I was determined to prove this sentence wrong. 

And yet, the only thing that I gained from my overachieving friendship skills was busyness and loneliness…..Continue reading by clicking the link below:


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  1. Allyson Almeida December 10, 2020 at 2:21 pm

    Dear Lindsay,

    I loved today’s devotional, thank you!
    As an aside, I too have overcome the effects of abuse (mine, being physical at the hand of my Dad); but, praise God He has brought me new life through my Savior these past many years!

    I have overcome food addiction, no longer live “confused”(or insecure), have learned to not expect from others/but rather approach my relationships from a standpoint of how the Lord can use me to be a blessing; I have learned to forgive much, pray without ceasing, have healthy boundaries, and best of all, I center my days around living for Him and doing “His will” (to include witnessing) – truly, a life of abundance!

    Though my health at 61 is not without many physical challenges (Endo and a total hysto early in life, Sarcopenia, arthritic neck migraines, Raynaud’s, Shogrens, chronic shin splint and Interstitial Cystitis/aka Painful Bladder Syndrome), my Heavenly Father STILL makes it possible to live a life of exceedingly great joy g abundance!!

    Having moved south from CT to NC when my husband retired 18 most. ago, we now find ourselves exceptionally blessed to be living in a faith-filled community of Believers with our lives centered around our 7 Lakes Baptist Church family – a place where we believe the Lord led us – and, where my husband of 36 years was Baptized!

    Our favorite daily devotional: Sarah Young’s, “Jesus Calling, Enjoying Peace in His Presence”; a source of tremendous growth: The Charles Stanley (30) Life Principles Bible. I also love reading historical and other Christian-authored fiction…

    🙌Praise God from whom all blessings flow!

    Wishing you a joyous Advent ~
    In Christ’s Love,
    Allyson Almeida

  2. FrancineWilliams November 17, 2021 at 11:14 am

    I have just read your beautiful illustration of the butterfly with the broken wing. This explanation of why the other wing needs to be broken has spoken profoundly to me This has been a real blessing to me .
    Thank you so much.


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