Sometimes the waves splash gleefully at my feet and other times they crash intensely over my shoulders. The ebb and flow of everyday life can be a challenge to overcome. 

The phrase “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle” is garbage.



The concept isn’t wrong in reality but the phrase is garbage. It is the farthest thing from the truth I have ever heard. Funny thing is, I have been repping that phrase for as long as I can remember.

Isn’t that ironic?

You’re welcome for the song that will now be stuck in your head for days. Thank you Alanis, for Jagged Little Pill. The entirety of my 1995-1998 self has immense gratitude for you.

I’m embarrassed to say that “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle” was my go to phrase, but it is true. I firmly believe that way too many of us helpful, go-to girls reach for this phrase when we are at a loss for other words. When we have no idea how to help our sweet friend that reached out to us from a place of distress.

Let’s face it though – this phase is just BOGUS.

It is not based on biblical principle, whatsoever. In fact it is the exact opposite of biblical principle. God doesn’t give us the hard stuff you guys…God carries us when we can’t go on because the weight of the “hard stuff” is a consuming force that we, alone, can not overcome. It is when we are at the weakest place, the place where there is absolutely no way we could handle this journey, that God can shower us with love. It is in this darkness that He can show us that we can not do this alone – but we CAN however, do it all through HIM. (Phillipians 4:13) 

Life gives you more than you can handle…alone.

God gives you the strength to conquer the things that, on your own would have destroyed you. 

Don’t let life’s waves get you down…let Him help you above the waves.

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  1. Funmike May 25, 2020 at 7:49 am

    Hello Lindsay,

    I read your article on the I believe truth devotional about God turning your almost ruined fruit into the sweetest jam.

    God has worked through me and for me in a million ways for which I am grateful. However, there is a level of depth I haven’t experienced in Christ. After reading your article today and a number of other Christain write ups, it seems like God loves to use people that are at their lowest . So I wonder, if I were not almost ruined would God still use me ?

    I am 25 years old and while I have had challenges in life, I haven’t had any serious breakdown. I got to know the Lord at an early age and when things seem though he always brings me back. Does this make me good enough for God.

    1. lindsaytedder - Site Author May 28, 2020 at 3:46 pm

      Hi! Thank you for reaching out! I wish I could give you a hug! I am thankful that you’ve never had a serious breakdown and pray that trend continues for you. But of course you are good enough for God!

      He designed you, my friend.
      He chose you.
      He knows you.
      He loves you.
      You are His masterpiece.

      Continue to stay with Him! He will always be there for you!


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